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13 June 2008 @ 11:12 pm
Ok, so this new manager is making me feel rather uncomfortable at times.  He acts all buddy buddy with me, play punches me, pokes me, etc.  He talks to me a hell of a lot, more than he talks to the others it seems, and very often, while I'd be working with customers, he'd be watching me with a huge grin on his face, and when I'd ask why he is smiling, he'd always mention how I'm a natural with customers.  He even called me a "rock star" for it one time.  Like oook.   Actually, he even does that while I'm doing something like folding t-shirts.

It all sounds fine, I'm sure, but the other day he started to talk about how while people pay $2/month to support starving African kids, they pay $1/minute to have phone sex.  He then commented on how they should just get the starving African kids to be a part of these hotlines, and made up this hypothetical conversation that one would have in such a situation.  It was creepy.  And right before, he was talking about sex positions while we were talking about religion, since he initially brought up the fact that the church only permits the missionary, and blah blah blah.  After all of this, he said, "This conversation never happened."

While sometimes I think he's just being friendly, I get this vibe that he is flirting with me.  When I told one of my co-workers, Heather, about all of this, she definitely thought that I should be creeped out, and mentioned that another co-worker, who fortunately had her last day this week, thought that he was flirting with her too.  Apparently this co-worker of mine with whom he was flirting was wearing really short shorts that day so Healther thought that was probably the main reason why he had the desire to flirt with her.  Ugh.

I've been told that this stuff is considered sexual harassment.  The sad part is he has a girlfriend.  And well uh, this is in a work environment and he's the fucking manager?
Current Mood: uncomfortableuncomfortable
Current Music: Amorphis - Privilege of Evil
Samanthaloveberlinxo on June 14th, 2008 07:47 am (UTC)
I would file a complaint. Thats sick and shouldn't be tolerated in any work enviroment.
crows_warningcrows_warning on June 14th, 2008 02:49 pm (UTC)
Have a talk with him. Once. After that definately file a complaint. Talk to the regional supervisor if you need too, but that needs to stop.
The Apostle in Triumph: hmmm!mothah_cheddah on June 14th, 2008 03:44 pm (UTC)
when sexual harassment happens, usually it's a higher-up harassing their employees. sounds creeptastic to me.
leftyviolistleftyviolist on June 14th, 2008 03:47 pm (UTC)
just to clarify because I'm not sure I understand what you meant here... I think sexual harassment laws work in this way: if someone - regardless of level - were making me uncomfortable (through sexual advances or lewd stories/jokes, whatever), it would be sexual harassment. I don't believe that the person's job title has anything to do with it.
The Apostle in Triumphmothah_cheddah on June 14th, 2008 06:36 pm (UTC)
i'm saying usually when it happens, it seems like it's a manager or someone harassing someone in a lower position.... i wasn't saying anything about legality of it.

it just seems to "make sense" because what's someone going to do when his/her manager is making advances towards them? Not everyone is going to think of going to the next step of the hierarchy and say, "hey, i'm getting sexually harassed." A lot of people end up feeling trapped and not saying anything at all.
leftyviolistleftyviolist on June 14th, 2008 03:44 pm (UTC)
It's definitely harassment. That sort of conversation should never happen in a work environment, especially when it's followed with "this conversation never happened". I'm so sorry you are having to deal with this. I've been there and it's not fun and makes everything very awkward and icky.